Jesus told a paralyzed man that his sins were forgiven, before he told him to take up his mat and walk (Matthew 9:1-8). If your adult children appear to be paralyzed in various ways, (keeping bedroom and bathroom tidy and putting your things in their proper place, ie dirty dishes in the dishwasher), remember that your forgiveness goes a long way towards keeping the relationship steady. One day, hopefully soon, you can say “take up your mat and walk right back to your own place.” But until that day, enjoy them and realize that at least they wanted to come back home. And by the way, this old adage is not in the Bible- “cleanliness is next to godliness.”